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the only truth I know is my own experience

Friendship test: a friend in need is a friend indeed? August 5, 2011

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Have you ever thought why a common idea of a good friend is as of a one who helps in need? Although it seems to be so common in many cultures (similar proverbs in various languages), I believe it is not what actually characterises a good friend.

My life experience shows that there are lots of people who are eager to help when one needs. Thanks God, most of human beings have a kind and good nature, otherwise this world would never survive. I am sure if you will analyze your experiences you will also find out that in many cases you have been helped not by your friends, but by people whom you hardly know or even by strangers. It turnes out that the help in need is not the one which we can only get from real friends.

Once when I was younger and thinking of getting married I was wondering what would be the most important thing for me in my husband. And I realized that the joy-sharing would be crucial, above all good qualities and habits. Imagine, you are enjoying something and the person next to you has no clue about how you feel. When the other does not share your joy, what’s the point in such a relationship?

The same works for a friendship, I believe. I true friend is the one with whom I can share all the joys of my life and I know he/she will not be jealous, will be able happy fro me and enjoy with me.

Now ask yourself how many people do you know with whom you can share your joy? I guess not that many. And all that people are your real friends, right? 🙂

I might be mistaking in that theory, but I guess it works for all people. What do you think?

LOVE, axinia

 

Test results: my ideal film role November 12, 2008

Filed under: love,personal,thoughts,women — axinia @ 10:07 am
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A girlfriend has sent me a lovely test to find out the best female role one could have played. I found the results very interesting, because all my girlfriends have got the results, that went accurately with their female nature. Unfortunately the test is available only in Russian, and obviously made up by Russians, as there are some characters from Russian films as well.

So my result is – Arwen, the Elf Princess from The Lord of the Rings.: “she is not only beautiful and gracious, but has a strong spirit and she performs miracles for the sake of her love”. Interestingly, that is the film I never watched. Although the character seems to be fitting me the best compared to the 16 others.

I was just taken aback by the accuracy of results and wanted ot share with you…:)

LOVE; axinia

 

Supposition: why multiple intelligence theory can be vital for a happy marriage September 21, 2008

The Multiple Intelligence Theory introduced by Dr. Howard Gardner in 1983 is one of my favourites to explain the human nature and interactions. The traditional (western) take on intelligence is linguisticaly and logical-mathematically based (known as IQ). However that does not work for everyone, as there is obviously more variety of intelligences. Here is the Gardner`s classification:

bullet Linguistic intelligence (“word smart”):
bullet Logical-mathematical intelligence (“number/reasoning smart”)
bullet Spatial intelligence (“picture, space smart”)
bullet Bodily-Kinesthetic intelligence (“body smart”)
bullet Musical intelligence (“music smart”)
bullet Interpersonal intelligence (“people smart”)
bullet Intrapersonal intelligence (“self smart”)
bullet Naturalist intelligence (“nature smart”)

More recently, Gardner (1998) has nominated two additional candidate intelligences: Spiritual and Existentional ones, however he was less sure about how to define and incorporate them.

The theory says, a person has some of these intelligences highly developed, some less.

This is a cross-post from my Shaktipower Blog, my supposition on how multiple intelligence theory is connected with a happy marriage you will find here.

LOVE, axinia

 

 
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