1000 petals by axinia

the only truth I know is my own experience

How I wonderfully managed my communication lot August 21, 2013

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I am in one of the most communication-loaded professions, people management. This would mean talking, talking and talking. however the average time I spend on the phone daily is only about 1 (!) hour.  Happy to share with you some tricks about managing communication.

1. Phone talks are unhealthy and limiting in expression. 70% of all talks many people do on the phone I outsourced to Internet: I prefer writing short messages  or long detailed emails, depending on the case – this saves my time and the time of the counter part. People have more chances to think over the message. It is also more convenient because today when almost everyone owns a smartphone, a written message can be read practically any time. While writing emails it is crucial to give the topic in the header as exact as possible, so the reader can see the relevance of the message. Another important thing about written communication: please always give feedback!!! ALWAYS. People should know you have received the message, it makes them feel comfortable and appreciated.

2. I prefer “LIVE” communication to any other. Therefore I just try to MEET people. Thanks to my job I always meet new people and maintain relationships with the good “old” ones. Going out for lunch, meeting after work, inviting to my place, going out on weekends…There are lots of chances to meet up. And this is most important!

3. There people whom I like so much that I really want to meet them more often.  And also to let them meet each other! So I came to an idea of organizing my “own” club 🙂 I invite interesting people (either my job candidates, or clients, or just my good friends) once in a month, we all meet for clubbing ina nice quiet location. Since the group is “pre-selected” by high professional and ethical standards, it is a great pleasure and fun to meet up regularly. Many interesting ideas and project emerge out of these positive gatherings.

4. Being active in Social Networks also helps a lot. Every now and then I post some “private” information, limited but regularly, so people who are not close friends but know me personally  are updated about my life changes. It is important not to overdo  or not to under-do that.

5. Thanks to my blog www. 1000petals.wordpress.com which i run since 6 years I have gained many new friends (online and offline) who also appreciate this kind of communication. Blogging is a great tool no doubt! My readers like to refer to my posts and discuss them with me personally, also outside the blogosphere.

P.S: When meeting someone for the frist time I normally take time and we talk at least about 1-2 hours. This helps to deeply understand the person and see to the roots. It helps establishing the trust. Normally after one such meeting the person always remembers me and is happy to coöperate any time and is much easier to handle in communication (needs less time to accomplish things!).

These are my little tricks. And what is helping you?

LOVE

axinia

 

An Amazing speech by a female Aboriginal elder April 6, 2010

It is a beautiful  speech by a female Aboriginal elder by the name of Bilawara Lee, about the powers of women, their place in society and the changes that are happening in the world today.  The speech was made in Darwin (Australia), march this year.  It is very insightful, and worth a read.

“Today we are facing a new Era.  The ancient Mayan culture speaks of this change, the ending of their old calendar in 2012, and the beginning of a new age.  They, along with many other Indigenous cultures, also speak that these times as one of a more feminine nature, based in the heart and unconditional love.

But women in our modern world have a problem.  We have begun to become financially and professionally empowered.  Yet the most important need, for spiritual empowerment, is often neglected or ignored. 

Our world is already in the time of transition and it will be a difficult time until the new era blossoms into an age of peace and understanding.  If our world is to survive, spiritually empowered women must take their place in helping.  It’s time for us to step up and step out.  The time of hiding is over.  

Most “aware” people know that it is necessary to heal our Mother Earth if we are to survive.  However, it is equally as imperative to also heal ourselves and each other through unconditional love, compassion and respect.   Moreover, women also need to help our men and boys develop their own feminine aspects of gentleness and sensitivity, compassion, nurturing, and kindness.  We need to help our male counterparts learn to work from the heart.

It won’t be easy but if we don’t do all of this, we can’t help our planet and humanity risks extinction.

Women you are powerful – truly powerful, with unique gifts that are far-reaching.  That is why we are considered a threat by so many male-dominated modern cultures and religious hierarchies.  Women are especially tuned to walk in both the spiritual world and the everyday world.  I have been taught that we are born spiritual; men have to strive hard to attain that state.

We are particularly adept at creating energy and change.  Our great capacity for bonding has made us especially empathic and gifted at understanding and seeing past surface levels.  Ultimately, our roles as caretakers and nurturers have opened our hearts and awareness to many levels of the universe.  Our spiritual gifts are profound.

Unfortunately, women today have begun to lose that understanding of their gifts as they have grappled to survive in the callous male dominated societies of today.  Many live tentative, cold, and fragmented lives as victims of violence, victims of unspeakable offenses against honour.  Too often, their hearts and spirit have become uncertain and lost, awash in grief and fear.  They have forgotten who they are.  They have forgotten their original instructions as human beings and as women. (more…)

 

The nectar of wisdom: my favourite quotes of a Sufi saint May 20, 2009

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There comes a stage in the evolution of an illuminated
soul, when it begins to see the law hidden behind nature. To it the whole of life reveals its secret.

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Is law predominant, or love? Law is the habit; love is the being. Law is made; love was, is, and always will be.

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The soul covers its own truth with a thousand veils from its own eyes.

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The prophetic soul is like a fruit that is on the ground but still connected with the branch. The branch has bent and the fruit has touched the earth, but it has not lost connection with the stem

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The further we advance, the more difficult and more important our part in the symphony of life becomes; and the more conscious we become of this responsibility, the more efficient we become in accomplishing our task.

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By self-realization a man becomes larger than the universe. The world in which he lives becomes as a drop in the ocean of his heart.

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A person, however learned and qualified in his life’s work, in whom gratitude is absent, is devoid of that beauty of character which makes personality fragrant. (more…)

 

No man can teach another man January 2, 2009

 

According to the Sufi point of view there is only one teacher, and that teacher is God Himself. No man can teach another man. All one can do for another is to give him one’s own experience in order to help him to be successful. For instance if a person happens to know a road, he can tell another man that it is the road which leads to the place he wishes to find. The work of the spiritual teacher is like the work of Cupid. The work of Cupid is to bring two souls together; and so is the work of the spiritual teacher: to bring together the soul and God. But what is taught to the one who seeks after truth? Nothing is taught. He is only shown how he should learn from God. For no man can ever teach spirituality; it is God alone who teaches it.

Hazrat Inayath Khan “The Secret of Life”

 

Two films of highest asthetic beauty November 9, 2008

The breathtaking aesthetic beauty is a rare case in the western film. I have never seen any western production that would blow my mind by the spectacular colour combinations or marvelous aesthetic scenes – that remains the strength of the Eastern mindset and perspective.

Two films that impressed me the most with their breathtaking beauty and astonishing colour galore are recent Chinese and Indian films.

Curse of the Golden Flower  is a 2006 Chinese historical epic drama film directed by Zhang Yimou. With a budget of $45 million, it is the most expensive Chinese film to date. it will take your breath away as you see the richness in its story, sets, and costumes. See for yourself – isn`t it gorgeous?

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My second secret weapon: forgiving April 26, 2008

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I wrote about my first powerful weapon several times, for example here and here. It is the power of innocence. The power of a child in a person. This power lays in the base of a human being as a “childness”, manifested through innocence, wisdom, spontaneity and living in the present. In a daily life full of competition and performance pressure I naturally use this quality to act according to my own principles and – actually – for the benevolence of everyone around. That makes my life very easy and enjoyable in every moment. But there is another trick that makes my life even more comfortable and colourful. In my way I would call it my second secret weapon – the power of forgiving.

Since the message of forgiving was given by Jesus Christ two millennia ago, not much has happened in the human awareness in that direction. Luckily recently the word “forgiving ” is getting some shape in the modern human minds. After 2000 years! Better later than never, indeed.

Amazingly, people find it extremely difficult to forgive. I remember one Christian (!) lady proudly told me ” there are things in life one CAN NOT forgive!” – interesting, isn´t it?  Let`s see how it works and why forgiving is actually a very easy thing. (more…)

 

 
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