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Illusion traps: how to recognize and escape them October 18, 2010

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Each of us faces these amazing delusions at least once in a  lifetime…

What is meant here under “illusion” – this phenomenon is a particular situation (relationships or job, or any kind of responsibility, or else) which involves a person fully, being not really benevolent to him/her. Example: falling in love with the “wrong” person. My goodness, is that typical for human beings… Some mad, blind love which ends up at with devastating disappointment and pain…How many of us experienced that?

Another example: the work-life which becomes dominant over any other part of life – like health, family, friends. A job which is demanding and telling us we “have to achieve”, to succeed, to be the best… The price for this illusion is often very high because it goes at the cost of good health and overall happiness.

What is the sign of illusion? The best indicator of illusion /or call it delusion is that everyone around can can see something is wrong with it, and only the person involved cannot see it. Well, may be not everyone, but at least good friends and people who care, they can see clearly something is going wrong. They also normally try to make a point to the person, but he/she  (normally) doesn’t listen and argues. Probably in this case the collective consciousness is sending the messages via friends and relatives. Another sign is that somebody always suffers from the situation, just contrary to a regular situation where everyone is happy (the ones who suffers may be even the person himself/herself).

How to get out of delusion? Basically there is no way of getting out of it earlier before we can learn our lesson well. Any kind of such illusion is a powerful learning situation, often sweet and hard both, and even if we suffer, we are ready to suffer till the end because of a certain attractiveness in the situation. At some point the glass house breaks down and we get disillusioned. If the lesson has been learned properly, we will never get into the same trap again, if not – soon it’s there again, at a different set with the same skip. (more…)

 

3 common misconceptions of work March 5, 2010

ILLUSION 1:  People tend to overestimate the role of work in their lives: the identification with a profession is often so strong that the whole personality gets squashed into that limited role.

ILLUSION 2: A job is the only mean of unfolding the beauty of personality. In reality there are so many other occupations that also do it: family, friends, hobbies…

ILLUSION 3: the greatest one – a job is the way of self-realization or so-called self-fulfillement.

These are the illusions I guess we all more or less dwell in, due to the strong conditioning of the society. However the opposite is true!

Here are some points I  gained from my observations:

  • generally, most of the people have many talents/abilities, they can vary from art to technique, from language to mathematics within one and the same person.
  • it is difficult to find a job where we can fulfill many of our talents at the same time.
  • we often have to take one opportunity after another in order to be able to live all our talents in one life. And even one life may not be enough.
  • we have to realize that there may not be ONE dream job!
  • we have to realize that even getting the dream job is not reaching heaven, and finally it does not make us happy. It may contribute to our well-being, but it is not the ultimate happiness (as many people seem to believe). Neither a dream job nor a dream partner are responsible for our happiness.

And what are your observations?

P.S. In order just to add to the dream job issue: I myself have in mind several dream jobs which are totally different!  Despite the fact that I am already having the so-called dream job, I would love to do at least 3 other things later in my life:

  1. life coach/job coach (helping people to find their mission and place in life)
  2. director of my own private school (with a unique educational concept I worked out through years)
  3. florist (flower design) or interior designer

I hope I will manage to live all them in this life  :)… At the same time I know that in the end of the day there is something else that matters much more for me, something which gives me the true self-fulfillment. And for you?

LOVE,

axinia

 

 
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