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Why we can’t find happiness January 24, 2010

The topic of Happiness, same as of Love is one of the greatest mysteries of all times. Everybody wants it, many have it, even more are desperately searching for it…

When I ask a person: Are you happy? he or she starts reflecting like “yes, basically I have this and that.. must be happy.. but…” Something seems to be missing, at least for the Western mindset.

It’s hard for me to comment on it, for I was already born a happy person. Despite several pretty gloomy periods in my life I remember having inner peace and contentment and even bliss constantly, independent of the hard life tests. However I was not taught that. It was just there… some good luck, may be :).

Looking at people around I am wondering why can’t they be happy. If happiness is about having the material wealth, then most of the people in the West must have been the happiest in the world. But the opposite is true. Ask anyone “what do you wish for yourself?” and the most common answer will be “I want to become happy”.

That was always puzzling me… until I discovered for myself a great Master of a human psyche,  a Jungian analyst Robert A. Johnson. In his book “HE”  Johnson gives probably the most accurate and brilliant explanation what happiness is and how to achieve it.

Modern western man has some basic misconceptions about the nature of happiness. The origin of the word is instructive: happiness steams from the the root verb to happen, which implies that our happiness is what happens. Simple people in less complicated parts of the world function in this manner and exhibit a happiness and tranquility that is a puzzle to us. (more…)

 

Being happy is viral – study says December 6, 2008

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That is what I always suspected and now  it is official:  Happiness is contagious!

Researchers from Harvard Medical School and the University of California, San Diego have found that “happiness” is not the result solely of a cloistered journey filled with individually tailored self-help techniques. Happiness is also a collective phenomenon that spreads through social networks like an emotional contagion.

In a study that looked at the happiness of nearly 5000 individuals over a period of twenty years, researchers found that when an individual becomes happy, the network effect can be measured up to three degrees. One person’s happiness triggers a chain reaction that benefits not only their friends, but their friends’ friends, and their friends’ friends’ friends. The effect lasts for up to one year. Conversely, sadness does not spread through social networks as robustly as happiness (!).

They also found that, contrary to what your parents taught you, popularity does lead to happiness. People in the center of their network clusters are the most likely people to become happy, odds that increase to the extent that the people surrounding them also have lots of friends. (more…)

 

How to become happy November 29, 2008

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My another experience based observation on happiness: the fact that one feels happy and the “amount” of it depends on the mere amount of love one gets /the number of people one is loved by.

Quite some time ago I discovered for myself that the only quest everyone is after is the quest for love. Sure we want to have health and wealth too, but generally it is the LOVE that is really fulfilling and gives the delight of happiness.

Being a happy person on my own, I recently made another discovery – that the happiness can actually grow bigger and bigger! And that is, in direct proportion with the number of people we are loved by, or the intensity of that love.

Since my heart expanded a bit more and I started loving people easily (why and how see my post “Pouring love down is so exciting!” here), I get so much love back from everywhere that I even don`t know what to do with it… It is so overwhealming and beautiful, that sometimes I feel like crying!…

Every single person that gets even a bit of my loving attention, is eager to love back! I feel that people are just thirsty for someone to love them. (more…)

 

 
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