1000 petals by axinia

the only truth I know is my own experience

What men really love about women March 9, 2010

Since years I have been interviewing men who seemed to be in happy relationships about the secret of their choice. “Why that woman? What does she give you?”… And you know there is a pretty common answer which I keep receiving from  males of various cultural and social backgrounds.

There is one word which they all mean: inspiration. “She inspires me: She awakens my desire to live, to create, to move, to achieve….”

We are the INSPIRATION….amazing, isn’t it? Just think that this is probably the core of Femininity…

Here is what a saint says about Inspiration: (more…)

 

Being happy is viral – study says December 6, 2008

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That is what I always suspected and now  it is official:  Happiness is contagious!

Researchers from Harvard Medical School and the University of California, San Diego have found that “happiness” is not the result solely of a cloistered journey filled with individually tailored self-help techniques. Happiness is also a collective phenomenon that spreads through social networks like an emotional contagion.

In a study that looked at the happiness of nearly 5000 individuals over a period of twenty years, researchers found that when an individual becomes happy, the network effect can be measured up to three degrees. One person’s happiness triggers a chain reaction that benefits not only their friends, but their friends’ friends, and their friends’ friends’ friends. The effect lasts for up to one year. Conversely, sadness does not spread through social networks as robustly as happiness (!).

They also found that, contrary to what your parents taught you, popularity does lead to happiness. People in the center of their network clusters are the most likely people to become happy, odds that increase to the extent that the people surrounding them also have lots of friends. (more…)

 

How to become happy November 29, 2008

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My another experience based observation on happiness: the fact that one feels happy and the “amount” of it depends on the mere amount of love one gets /the number of people one is loved by.

Quite some time ago I discovered for myself that the only quest everyone is after is the quest for love. Sure we want to have health and wealth too, but generally it is the LOVE that is really fulfilling and gives the delight of happiness.

Being a happy person on my own, I recently made another discovery – that the happiness can actually grow bigger and bigger! And that is, in direct proportion with the number of people we are loved by, or the intensity of that love.

Since my heart expanded a bit more and I started loving people easily (why and how see my post “Pouring love down is so exciting!” here), I get so much love back from everywhere that I even don`t know what to do with it… It is so overwhealming and beautiful, that sometimes I feel like crying!…

Every single person that gets even a bit of my loving attention, is eager to love back! I feel that people are just thirsty for someone to love them. (more…)

 

Why it is good to celebrate birthdays August 26, 2008

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Today in the morning I`ve got a call from an old friend with some heartfelt birthday wishes. He said “I know you are a happy person and it is difficult to wish you something… I wish you that today you will not only be happy, but that you feel very festive and celebrate this day properly!” – and that was The Message!

When we get older, many of us stop celebrating birthdays  – at least what I see around. Especially in the West, which is obsessed with youth, ladies don`t want to show off their aging. And so the beautiful child-like celebration slowly dies out…

I followed the advice and kept the festive and joyful mood the whole day long, and that felt great! – I think the importance and the power of a birthday is that it takes you back to the roots, reminds on a child in you and awakens some unique sweetness… And also when other people learn about your birthday, their hearts melt and they the pour their best wishes upon you… Such are very moving and benevolent moments in life!

Let`s keep celebrating our birthdays!

(for those who got their second birth via self-realisation this special pleasure is twice a year 🙂 )

LOVE; axinia

 

A cat tale and my life August 25, 2008

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I love this cat tail story because I love cats and I am a happy person 🙂

I think that we love stories/books/films, with which we can identify ourselves. So this is a story with which I can identify myself in every sense:

— A cat tale about the tail of a cat —

A big cat saw a little cat chasing its tail and asked, “Why are you chasing your tail so?”

Said the kitten “I have learned that the best thing for a cat is happiness and that happiness is in my tail. Therefore I am chasing it and when I catch it, I shall have happiness.”

Said the old cat “My child, I too have paid attention to the problems of the universe. I too have judged that happiness is in my tail. But I have noticed that whenever I chase it, it runs away from me, but when I go about my business, it just seems to come after me wherever I go.”

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LOVE, axinia

 

What is actually happiness? July 13, 2008

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If you ask people what they wish themselves, almost everyone says “to be happy”. It means they are not happy presently. But what is this mysterious happiness which is so difficult to achieve?

What do we actually need to become happy?

Is happiness a sum of several thing?

Or is it totally independent from the outer word and is the result of the inner development?

Or may be it is an inborn quality that can no be learned/achieved?

I would de very much interested to hear from my readers what they think of it, what happiness mean to them! Thanks in advance.

LOVE, axinia

 

How to control your husband May 13, 2008

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Want your husband to look that cat -satisfied, bathing in pleasure? The natural female desire to control the man can be expressed in some unusually simple and handy ways. Please visit my other blog for the new post on this vital subject.

LOVE, axinia

 

 
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