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the only truth I know is my own experience

Who is a true friend? The quote which says it all. February 2, 2012

Friendship is a popular topic, a lot has been said about it. I found a quote which seems to express it short and best:

 

Friendship test: a friend in need is a friend indeed? August 5, 2011

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Have you ever thought why a common idea of a good friend is as of a one who helps in need? Although it seems to be so common in many cultures (similar proverbs in various languages), I believe it is not what actually characterises a good friend.

My life experience shows that there are lots of people who are eager to help when one needs. Thanks God, most of human beings have a kind and good nature, otherwise this world would never survive. I am sure if you will analyze your experiences you will also find out that in many cases you have been helped not by your friends, but by people whom you hardly know or even by strangers. It turnes out that the help in need is not the one which we can only get from real friends.

Once when I was younger and thinking of getting married I was wondering what would be the most important thing for me in my husband. And I realized that the joy-sharing would be crucial, above all good qualities and habits. Imagine, you are enjoying something and the person next to you has no clue about how you feel. When the other does not share your joy, what’s the point in such a relationship?

The same works for a friendship, I believe. I true friend is the one with whom I can share all the joys of my life and I know he/she will not be jealous, will be able happy fro me and enjoy with me.

Now ask yourself how many people do you know with whom you can share your joy? I guess not that many. And all that people are your real friends, right? 🙂

I might be mistaking in that theory, but I guess it works for all people. What do you think?

LOVE, axinia

 

FRIENDSHIP – why it is the ultimate form of any relationship August 6, 2009

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Friendship is a word which we all use in our everyday language, and yet it could take one’s whole life only to realize its
meaning. However learned a person may be, however pious, spiritual, or experienced, if he has not learned that nature and
character of friendship he has not learned anything.
This is the first and the last thing we have to learn. We so often use this
word lightly, calling every acquaintance a friend, or professing to be somebody’s friend; but the more we realize the meaning of
it, the less we are able to claim friendship. For everything in life we are tested, examined, and tried, but to pass this examination
of friendship is the most difficult thing in the world.

What is the reason for this? Why is it so difficult to be a friend? One would think that it was the easiest thing there is! The
reason is that there is something in ourselves which is always against our being friendly. It is the the ego.

As long as this ego is standing and lives, a man cannot claim to be anybody’s friend. And when he is not somebody
else’s friend he is not even his own friend, for one learns friendship by being a friend to another. A selfish man may seem to be
a friend to himself but, it is on the surface, not in reality. He has not yet learned how to be a friend to another, so he cannot be
a friend to himself. In our pursuit of truth we want to learn a great many things: the nature of life, the secret of life, the character
of life; and to understand the meaning of friendship seems so easy and simple that we never trouble to think about it, nor about
the responsibility of being a friend.

It is a simple lesson, and it is a lesson that we have to learn; today when nations are against nations and races against races,
when communities are against communities, and one religion against another, it is now that friendship is so much needed.
Besides, friendship is the first lesson of spirituality that one can learn. One may think that friendship, a personal friendship,
means nothing; that one does not become spiritual through a personal friendship. But one does. (more…)

 

No domination! Or the true friendship March 18, 2009

Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow.
Don’t walk behind me, I may not lead.
Just walk beside me and be my friend.
Albert Camus

Being a giver by nature, in my freindships throughout my life I used to give more than to receive,

I used to lead, I used to to be the inspiration and the comforter…

But at some point I realised that actually it is my lovely freinds who give me much more than I could ever be able to give. 

It is my great freinds who are my teachers and my comforters…

 And at some next point I realised that we are totally equal and the only way we can walk forward is walking beside each other.

LOVE, axinia

 

 
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