1000 petals by axinia

the only truth I know is my own experience

How I wonderfully managed my communication lot August 21, 2013

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I am in one of the most communication-loaded professions, people management. This would mean talking, talking and talking. however the average time I spend on the phone daily is only about 1 (!) hour.  Happy to share with you some tricks about managing communication.

1. Phone talks are unhealthy and limiting in expression. 70% of all talks many people do on the phone I outsourced to Internet: I prefer writing short messages  or long detailed emails, depending on the case – this saves my time and the time of the counter part. People have more chances to think over the message. It is also more convenient because today when almost everyone owns a smartphone, a written message can be read practically any time. While writing emails it is crucial to give the topic in the header as exact as possible, so the reader can see the relevance of the message. Another important thing about written communication: please always give feedback!!! ALWAYS. People should know you have received the message, it makes them feel comfortable and appreciated.

2. I prefer “LIVE” communication to any other. Therefore I just try to MEET people. Thanks to my job I always meet new people and maintain relationships with the good “old” ones. Going out for lunch, meeting after work, inviting to my place, going out on weekends…There are lots of chances to meet up. And this is most important!

3. There people whom I like so much that I really want to meet them more often.  And also to let them meet each other! So I came to an idea of organizing my “own” club 🙂 I invite interesting people (either my job candidates, or clients, or just my good friends) once in a month, we all meet for clubbing ina nice quiet location. Since the group is “pre-selected” by high professional and ethical standards, it is a great pleasure and fun to meet up regularly. Many interesting ideas and project emerge out of these positive gatherings.

4. Being active in Social Networks also helps a lot. Every now and then I post some “private” information, limited but regularly, so people who are not close friends but know me personally  are updated about my life changes. It is important not to overdo  or not to under-do that.

5. Thanks to my blog www. 1000petals.wordpress.com which i run since 6 years I have gained many new friends (online and offline) who also appreciate this kind of communication. Blogging is a great tool no doubt! My readers like to refer to my posts and discuss them with me personally, also outside the blogosphere.

P.S: When meeting someone for the frist time I normally take time and we talk at least about 1-2 hours. This helps to deeply understand the person and see to the roots. It helps establishing the trust. Normally after one such meeting the person always remembers me and is happy to coöperate any time and is much easier to handle in communication (needs less time to accomplish things!).

These are my little tricks. And what is helping you?

LOVE

axinia

 

Friendship replaces marriage in the modern value system January 16, 2013

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It is another interesting trend: Friendship as a value takes the place of marriage in the modern western world. What we see on the surface is the relationship status “girl-friend”, “boy-friend”. It is not by chance that people choose this words to explain that they are actually lovers.  In many western countries this kind of relationship has been legalized and has almost the status of marriage, even from the taxation point of view. Despite this fact people, especially males tend to see this kind of relationship as a “light” version of marriage, a less value-loaded status with less responsibilities.

On the other hand we have a significant shift in the collective consciousness regarding the value of friendship. While the girl-friend-boy-friend-relationship has less weight than a marriage, we can see the value of friendship as an intimate relationship without any sex involved rising high.In the online world, thanks for Facebook & Co it is a matter of prestige and social value to have many friends, no matter how “real” they are.

In the offline world people start loving, relying on, valuing friends more that their families. Why? First of all, for various reasons (one is given here) the generations of 20 to 50 year-old in the West suffer from problems with parents. For many a family is not the place to relax and enjoy, on the contrary  it is a place to quarrel, debate on relationship issues and even sue each other. At the same time it’s becoming a great problem for young people to create their own families – may be because they have seen so many divorces, may be of high expectaions planted in minds by the mass media… Whatever it is, the lack of peace in the family corner makes people seek peace and joy elsewhere. And many find it in friendship.

A true friendship is a perfect relationship because it does not suggest any responsibilities and obligations like a marriage does. We are free to meet up, talk, do some activities together, enjoy… We do not “have to”… and yet we are happy to help, to support, “to be there for a friend in need”, to invest time and money. But why? What moves us? (more…)

 

my reflections on facebook December 15, 2009

Two years back I posted “how many bloggers use Facebook” saying that real bloggers don’t need Facebook and it’s a waste of time :). Either Facebook has developed itself to the best, or I have changed my ways, but somehow or rather I started appreciating Facebook. In fact, I found out how much fun and use it can be! By now I have about 620 friends (not everyone I know in person though) and that is not the limit for me. I love to watch this sea of souls communicating and sharing… fascinating!!

Here are my Facebook goodies:

1. It is a brilliant manifestation of collective intelligence: sharing and supporting each other gets easier for people, even if they don’t really know each other. I belive it is Facebook that made the breakthrough into collective online awareness – not everyone is a born blogger and blogging is a job after all :)… but everyone can make a step into the online life through Facebook.

2. New virtual friendships establish themselves probably even easier than through blogging – and then, online leads to offline! When i started using Facebook, I only wanted to have my real life friends there. But soon other people (mutual  friends, etc.) joined in and I realised how much fun it can be to meet and get to know better people with whom you would probably never met otherwise (not only because of the distance, but also because of differences in background and interests).

3. An interesting phenomenon: with some people whom I hardly know offline and kind of rediscover online – we can have a very intense Facebook connection, however it does not lead to its offline manifestation. Even if we meet then (occasionally),  it never comes to the Facebook intensity…I have 3-4 examples already. Any idea why? (more…)

 

PicLens: my best image-search with wow-effect! May 28, 2008

I just discovered PicLens for me and immediately want to share with all of you – wow! It is truly amazing!

Those who love beautiful stuff from the Image and Video world – you will LOVE PicLens!!!

Some technical information:

PicLens instantly transforms your browser into a full-screen, 3D experience for viewing images on the web. Photos will come to life via a cinematic presentation that goes well beyond the confines of the traditional browser window.

PicLens is a web browser plugin that provides interactive full-screen slideshows of online images. (more…)

 

 
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