I was often told that one of the most fascinating things about me is the refreshing self-confidence. Some readers consider this blog interesting mostly because of that – the way I share my experiences, the self-confident straightforwardness which does not make others feel guilty is what apparently makes my blog attractive.
Some people ask me about the secret behind this quality: How can I be so self-confident and at the same time not going into ego , the border is very fine as we all know…It’s time to reveal the secret!
I guess there are two things that make it:
1. I know myself very well. Since I was a child I was busy with discovering who I am, what my strengths and weaknesses are, I have always been introspective and seeking. This brought me a great advantage – the AWARENESS. I am aware of what I am. I know very well what makes my personality and what is still to improve. I know well what I am bad at. Or good at. This AWARENESS is what makes me confident.
But this is not enough! There is the second part of it which is quite rare in people, at least in the West.
2. I do not feel guilty. If I do something wrong, I have no problem with apologizing, do it immediately. If possible, I correct the situation. If it cannot be corrected, I admit being wrong and just move forward. I see no point in feeling guilty for ages because it sucks so much energy and the outcome is zero. May be because I do not carry the feeling of guilt around, people never feel guilty with me. Probably that makes people comfortable – for it is the ego that makes others feel quilty, while the self-confindece makes other feel respected.
Well by saying all that I do not claim this the ultimate truth 🙂 May be I am wrong and there are some other reasons behind this self-confidence. But at least this is my guess.
LOVE, and loads of it, my dear ones!