Have you ever thought why a common idea of a good friend is as of a one who helps in need? Although it seems to be so common in many cultures (similar proverbs in various languages), I believe it is not what actually characterises a good friend.
My life experience shows that there are lots of people who are eager to help when one needs. Thanks God, most of human beings have a kind and good nature, otherwise this world would never survive. I am sure if you will analyze your experiences you will also find out that in many cases you have been helped not by your friends, but by people whom you hardly know or even by strangers. It turnes out that the help in need is not the one which we can only get from real friends.
Once when I was younger and thinking of getting married I was wondering what would be the most important thing for me in my husband. And I realized that the joy-sharing would be crucial, above all good qualities and habits. Imagine, you are enjoying something and the person next to you has no clue about how you feel. When the other does not share your joy, what’s the point in such a relationship?
The same works for a friendship, I believe. I true friend is the one with whom I can share all the joys of my life and I know he/she will not be jealous, will be able happy fro me and enjoy with me.
Now ask yourself how many people do you know with whom you can share your joy? I guess not that many. And all that people are your real friends, right? 🙂
I might be mistaking in that theory, but I guess it works for all people. What do you think?