Depression, the greatest soul plague of modern humans… I wonder is it really a modern phenomenon or it is just better documented nowadays that in earlier centuries?
What defines depression? It is the act of depressing and the condition of being depressed. Depression is characterized by lack of activity, self-worth, dejection, sad feelings, gloom and inadequacy. When the people are in depression, then their life becomes negative. People in depression often face hopelessness, passivity, indecisiveness, suicidal intentions, loss of appetite, weight loss, sleeping disorders.
Here are some statistics on depression:
- Main reasons of depression in men are separation after marriage, widowed, divorce
- In US nearly 7 million women are clinically depressed
- One in seven men will develop depression within 6 months of becoming unemployed
- Mostly 15 percent of women suffering from severe depression will commit suicide
- Nearly 10 percent of women experience postpartum depression after birth of a child
- 2003 National Comorbidity Study, sponsored by the National Institutes of Health 16% of the population that is nearly 35 million Americans suffer from severe depression
- in Austria: every 5th person is clinically depressed and under medication
I guess the statistics on other countries will be not much different. By simply observing that one can get depressed!
Although I am not an expert on this subject, I would like to share one unique experience I had about being depressed. May be it will help someone out.
In my whole life I remember having only one depression. But that was a tough one! At the beginning of my adult life, with it’s brilliant start by a dream-marriage and all promising perspectives I suddenly faced the brutal reality of divorce. And I was only 22! Actually just several months after the most breathtaking love story I was told that love was gone and divorce is unavoidable, the sooner the better. That was really the shock of my life. HOW, WHY?.. I didn’t cry. But my heart became a stone. I saw only black. I could not feel anything. Total emptiness and sadness…Never ever before or after I experienced such a dead state of being. I think that falls definitely under depression mark. On top of that I could not talk to anyone about it because I did not want to disappoint all my beloved ones who felt so happy for my marriage. I was all alone out there facing that disaster.
The rescue came from a pretty unexpected side. I was visiting Russia at that time, all the friends kept inviting me to their places willing to hear the stories about my life abroad. So instead of sitting at my parents’ place and suffering from severe depression, I would go out and share my knowledge and experiences about living abroad with people. After all I could not tell anyone about my real situation and there was no obvious reason to decline invitations.
The most amazing this about it all was that I was “giving” something at the time when I felt myself being empty and dead. And at some point it worked out! At some point I noticed that my heart opened up – because of my friend’s sincere interest and love I was getting during my “lectures about Austria”… And my depression vanished! That was quite a powerful experience.
This recepie may not work for everyone, but for some deifinitely will! Try it out 🙂