In order to enhance communication and mutual understanding it’s quite helpful to be able to grasp some characteristics about a person at the beginnig of a conversation or even relationship.
When we communicate, we often speak about 2 things: weather and other people. Have you ever thought that by being attentive to how people talk about these 2 things one can say a huge lot about their personalities?
1.What do we say when making a note on a current weather condition:
we manifest what we feel at the moment, as well as your generall state: are we happy, satisfied, bored, sad, etc.
Discussing the weather, especially with strangers helps to express the emotion about our state of being and actually signalizes it to others.
For instance, it’s a well know fact that happy people enjoy any kind of weather, and unhappy – moan about any kind of weather.
2.What do we actually say when making a note on somebody:
we manifest our general attitude to human being (do we try to be objective by giving both positive and critical statement or do we only criticize? do we highlight the best side of a person? do we see others as friends or rather enemies?).
we manifest our self-concept, do we think of ourselves better than of others, do we often feel guilty, do we enjoy others?
These are my observations so far, and I do use this finding in private and professional life. Interestingly, analizing these 2 quick tests helps not judge people’s behaviour but to understand and forgive easily.