One dear reader of this blog, Terry, commented once that “Imagine the silence in the world if all judgmental conversations were prohibited. The Internet would be empty too.” How true is that!
Indeed if we analyze our daily talks, I wonder how much percent of it goes on judgement of others: their character, deeds, habits, likes and dislikes, fate and life stories…Endless time and energy! Mostured by negative attitude, they cover the sensitive nature of a precious human being with a sticky slime…Brrrr…
Some people understand that judgement is not a good thing to practice. Thus they say, “I am not judging, but…” – this sounds more appropriate but does it differ from any direct judgement? What a tricky thing this judgement is!..
I don’t want to moralize here about judgements, a lot has been and will be said about it in the future. What I find really interesting is that any judgement cannot be true for one simple reason:
WE CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND THE TRUE REASON OF ANYTHING.
Every action of human being can be analyzed and explained from an infinite number of perspectives: biological, psychological, sociological, political, economical, etc. kind of science. Then another, subtler knowledge levels like astrology, philosophy, karma law, vibrational, etc. can be also considered. They all play their role, and there is no case in life which has only one single explanation/dimention. And noone can be able to concider all of them, since humanity since lack the knowledge of how the Law of Life really works.
I feel hat just by realizing that fact the amount of my own judgement can be reduced enormously and hopefully vanish one day forever.
LOVE, axinia
axinia
1000 petals by axinia 
Thank you for the awakening quote of your friend and the post that enables to think.
Personally I have a wonderful shelter from any kind of judgments. Each time I am irritated about something, I try to visualize myself in a place of my offender . That always works well. My judgments become silenced at a glimpse – thus Art by Tomas is shining with understanding of his imperfection . The complaints transfer into the wish to bloom with the gratitude for the ability to see the light in the darkness.
thank you Tomas, a god insigt, very practical too.
The problem is also that we not only judge when feeling offended, but mosly just for nothing, in order to express our opion, to look important, etc…it’s such a tricky, sticky thing, I tell you!
No comment 😉
(I feel I spent too much energy in judging. Must relax and let things be).
what a sweet comment, my friend 🙂
Thanks for that!
Very good point. Through experience, I’ve learned to discern better, and to judge less.
Blessings, Axinia
I especially like CordieB’s distinction between discerning and judging. The power to discriminate is one basis of the jnana path to enlightenment in which the seeker reaches a state of spontaneous and continuous discernment between real and unreal and unreal. We all must naturally have this power but in common practice we focus it too simply on what we like or don’t like, and this seems to get us into the trap of judging other people.
So from all the comments I think I see two ways to get out of the trap. By recognizing when we are guilty of judging we can stop the process by will. And by nurturing our power of discernment we can see deeper into others to see their real absolute Self.
The benefit as Axina points out is enormous because when we judge others we draw a curtain between ourselves and them. It leads to obvious conflict, but what is much worse is that covers up our higher perceptions and understanding. “Sticky slime” says it very clearly.
We are warned everyday about things we do or eat are ruining our health, but we miss so many things that we think or say that are ruining our mental and spiritual health. If you want to really be scared about the effect judging has on character, visit a school playground. It’s brutal. And that is such a waste of energy and sensitivity.
When we judge we want to look outside of ourselves as to what should or shouldn’t be happening – as if we, the perceiver, don’t have anything to do with the interpretation of what happened then or is happening now.
the primary difference between discernment and judgment is emotion?
Judgment holds a frozen emotion based upon a past painful experience. It separates, and tend to perpetuate the original pain through denial rather than healing from reality.
Discernment lives more in the present and more like the observation of a difference without an emotional “story” attached to it.
Mostly, through judgment, we reveal what we still need to confront and learn. Through discernment, which holds the promise of personal spontaneity and responsiveness we reveal what we have ‘mastered’
Hello Mirel
Well said comment!
I have been sort of working like a mule and incognito. Just wanted to wish you and Axinia and Raj a warm hello from NYC
Dave
‘In this tangled world,
what is there
other than the Friend?’ remember Rumi dear Dave(~_~;)
It may seem like a long way away but 18 days can go by in the blink of an eye, hey time flies, right! your ‘Thanksgiving’ onn the corner ☆彡
♪♪In a New York Minute
Everything can change
In a New York Minute
Things can get a little strange
In a New York Minute
Everything can change
In a New York Minute
♪♪And in these days
When darkness falls early
And people rush home
To the ones they love
You better take a fool’s advice
And take care of your own ♪♪♪♪♪♪ (Don Henley singing ‘the end of the innocence’
Love to hearing your ‘voice’!!!! take care!!!♥
hi Dave, welcome back 🙂 hope you are fine, really great to see you comment here!!!!
Axinia Mirel,
It’s great company here, no matter how busy I have to come back.
Warm Wishes to You All
Dave
Cher Dave,
It’s great to have you back! 🙂 Thanks for the warm wishes, mon ami, and wish you the same! I hope you’re able to shake off all that work-accumulated stress when you have a blast during the upcoming Thanksgiving weekend! 🙂 Hopefully, the Thanksgiving turkey would taste all the more juicier, delicious and enjoyable after all your toil… I guess there is nothing like enjoying a hot, roast turkey and other delicacies with family and friends after months of sweating it out!
🙂
Thanks Raj,
Thanks Raj! The thing that makes thanksgiving really special more so than the food is the company. When I am more settled I will send you all an invite :-). How are things with you? Is all going well ?
Dave
I’m doing fine, and things are going okay, thank you Dave.
Indeed, more than the food or festivities, it’s the company that’s so special. I experienced it just now myself, with an extended Deepavali weekend.
Meeting members of a large extended family after a while is always fun, and I also managed to spend some time with a couple of good old friends I hadn’t seen for more than a year!
🙂
Poor Hansa? It is my basic problem. Nighter I judge properly nor I discriminate the thing/ people/experience properly and creates lots of problem to myself and others and west lots of unnecessary energy in that. that’s why most of the time I don’t get vibration on top. so it is very true but how to get read of it? better not go for it as you said rightly that WE CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND THE TRUE REASON OF ANYTHING. Another things is our delusional thoughts, they are main obstacles in clearing Hansa,what I feel. so we should be get rid of it but that is also not easy too. Accept the things/people/experiences as it is without judging,without reacting, and try to give positive stroke to the life is the philosophy now a days.
by the way, wishing you all an illuminating and joyful Diwali across the globe.
Thank you, Mirel, and wishing you Eid Mubarak! in advance 🙂
really appreciated, dear Raj! (short notice: majority of Turks would not easily figure out the meaning of ‘Eid’, it’s arabic! nonetheless, current political leader would definitely get it（；_・）
You’re welcome, dear Mirel. I guess the way to wish one on Kurban Bayramı (Eid al-Adha) in Türkçe would be İyi Bayramlar!! Perhaps this sounds even warmer and friendlier – Kurban Bayramınız Kutlu Olsun! 🙂
[Well, I guess with Turks slowly getting the feeling that they wouldn’t probably be accepted into the “Christian Club” they want to join, the “bridge between Asia and Europe” may want to tone down its relations with the Western side and fully embrace its Ummah brethren in the East. I have no idea whether it will be a gain or a loss for the Turks 😐 ]
🙂
Thanks n wish u same!!!!
No matter how much we would say or try not to be judgmental we do end up being that way coz first, at the very first go we try to form opinions on seeing a thing or person because a lot of things depends on our judgment whether a thing/person is good or bad. What i mean to say that it is an inherent nature of ours. Whether in a good or a bad way we do end up judging.
I am clearly not into “everything is equally to tolerate and everybody is nice and my friend”, even if I recognise in each other human a co-member of my specie who has the right to express himself as much as I do.
To be honest about the own points of view is an intellectual must to have a real communication and not a sirupous confluent fog gluing the neurones.
Controversy increases the creative challenge of free minds sharing their own individual experiences.If someone wants to reduce me to silence with a patronising dogma, he/she only succeeds to tickle my determinate sense of caring irony.I deeply trust in his/her redemptive potential of an eye to eye communication, once I smashed the pedestal soapbox to heart warming firewood.
We are far more similar in our needs, than different, and the more essential the debate blooms, the more the awareness of it grows.
No need to be scared! just a bit of bruised feather on the surface!