(image by me)
There is one interesting feature in a human character that amazes me the most. I don’t know the exact source of this phenomenon but its nature puzzles me every time I face it.
I have always been able to withstand some wide-spread conditioning/habits if I would consider them wrong. Such as, at my teens I was the first in my school to rebel against the school uniform and started wearing regular cloths. In my adult life I have opposed successfully and constructive some collective madness… What strikes me most about these experiencs, it is the fact that people, when it comes to some common shared views (which is oft nothing but superstition or conditioning) are not able to respect a FREE WILL, but they would except it if you justify something with another conditioning.
My favorite example in this case is alcohol drinking. I don’t drink alcohol since many years because somehow I dislike the taste of it. Apart from that I don’t need the effect of it – I think the main reason why people drink it is because they say their brain relaxes and they get into the better mood. Both is not needed in my case as my brain is never under pressure and I am always in the joyful mood. Anyway, whenever I am at a party or with people usually drink, they all try to insist on my drinking (Calssical arguments like “come on, you are Russian, you have to”, or “don’t you respect us?” etc.). I try to explain in a friendly manner that I simply don’t drink, I don’t like it. It seems to be hard ot understand.
And once a clever idea came to my mind. I was with a group of people who did not know me before. So I just invented a simple argument “you know, I am a Muslim and I am not allowed”. People looked a bit puzzled but then said: “yes, of cause, it is clear now”.
JUST IMAGINE! So basically if I say I do not drink out of my free will – than it is NOT normal. And if I do it because of a conditioning (any religious resriction or else) – then it is easily accepted. Now I wonder in what kind of a democratic society we are still living?
Thanks for sharing your experiences with similar situations and your ideas on this topic!