(image by me)
There is a widespread pop-psychological idea that people want to transform/develop themselves psychologically or physically because they feel they are not good enough (apparently because of the society pressure). I guess this idea has some Freudian background. Whatever it it, I personally find it a stupid supposition, that lacks the deeper understanding of a human nature.
The urge to becomme a better person is being percepted in the West as the lack of love to oneself.The mainstream psychology bestsellers preach “to love oneself” -meaning we should except ourselves as we are and just be happy. Sounds nice, no doubt! However it completely excludes the main stimulation of a human evolution – an urge to self-improvement, the joy of becoming a better person!
Since I remember myself, I always wanted to improve and become a better person. At the same time I have always been a satisfied and happy person. Where is the logic? Why this?
My supposition is that the self-improvement urge is something natural, moreover i is a must for every human being. And to see a psychological disorder (“I am not good enough that is why I want to improve”) in it is just strange…
And what would YOU say?