1000 petals by axinia

the only truth I know is my own experience

Confusion of roles January 30, 2009

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There is a complete confusion of roles and people are no longer sure what it means to be a man or a woman. God has created two sexes for good reasons, and these two sexes I feel are like two wheels of a chariot.Of course, there is a certain space or distance between the two and although equal and similar, they are not identical. One is on the left side and the one is on the right side. If you try to fit the left into the right side and the right side to the left, it won´t work out.

Apart from that, if you make one of those wheels smaller or less important than the other, this will prevent the chariot from moving forward and it will just go round and round in the circles.
So this differentiation of the sexes or of gender roles is part of the great variety that has been created by God. Every leaf is different from any other leaf in the whole world.

He has made these minute differences in order to create the beauty of variety, while we, with our freedom of choice and our nonsensical rationality, are trying to make all human beings look alike, walk alike, talk alike- regardless of sex, culture and age – and all this regimental behaviour finally makes you absolutely bored with human beings.

H.H. Shri Mataji Nirmala Devi, “Meta Modern Era”

 

13 Responses to “Confusion of roles”

  1. Sahaja Says:

    Incidentally, guess what?? My mom gave me this example today evening [ofcourse diff context, asking me 2 get settled soon 😉 ] that man and woman are like 2 wheels of a cart!!! Isnt that surprising?

    bored and with human beings….guess it will never happen….may b its in the perspective!
    To me, every thing on earth is different….let alone human beings….but i think one of the best blessings i have got [ya i do have many more blessings u knw na?] once i get something, i forget to compare, be it be anything! so am happy , observing the differences, enjoying the variety and learning from Nature!!

    I am an eternal student and Nature my Teacher! Mother Nature which has everything constituted in it including humans!

  2. What you say is right, there are certain things that can be done better by men and they like doing such things. And there are also certain things that women like doing and they do it better than men (And cooking is not one of them!! 🙂 ) But in the process of achieving equality, we as a society, force certain things on both men and women which they may not be inclined to do, but just do them because that is the expectations of the society and also due to peer pressure, we will end up creating a lot of robots around.

    The problem comes when either man or woman decides to have an upper hand by committing excesses. The illusion of control influences both men and women equally, don’t they?

    Destination Infinity

  3. axinia Says:

    Sahaja, the “charriot message” is probably not a coincidency but a good sign for you 🙂
    As for “bweing bored with human beings” – what is meant here is that when people try to beahve the same because of the pressure of society – i think our friend Destination Infinity has got it very well! And it is also about the beauty of variety which is being killed my the modern western culture.

    Belive me or not – I see more variety in 100 sari clad women than in a crowd of 100 glamour-styled western women -really!!! Proably because a sari emphasised the uniqueness of the face..I dont know, but it is my authentic experience.

  4. As usual, I beg to differ here, Axinia 🙂 I see no reason why gender roles should be very different. There is only one thing that differs when it comes to gender roles. And that is women give birth to children while men cannot. That’s how it is in the animal kingdom, so that is how it is with humans too.

    Apart from this which is very obvious, there is nothing else that should prevent equality. Like wheels of the chariot or any other vehicle, they are the same. They can be fit into any position and there will be no difference at all. As far as I know, the left wheel can be fit into the right side and vice-versa. That’s why we have only a single spare wheel in normal vehicles, because the wheel can be fit into any position, left or right, front or rear. (Some special vehicles have different wheels for front and rear, but never for left and right.) In fact, a good cartman or driver will always interchange the wheels after an interval so that they wear evenly 😉

    Every attempt to keep gender roles rigidly defined as they were thousands of years ago is a regressive move that hinders equality and progress.

    What is so special about the sari 😕 Apart from its gracefulness, it is a pathetic, cumbersome and primitive garment that makes simple tasks like climbing into the pictured cart highly difficult. If anything, cumbersome garments like the sari show that it’s the habit of some cultures to keep their women oppressed 😦

  5. swaps Says:

    Not all agree:
    http://englishrussia.com/?p=2241#more-2241

    I would prefer each person be himself/herself. Nobody should decide who is a normal male/female …being rigid on this segregation is dangerous.

  6. hmm…the need to have variation led to the two sexes. Infact that is what keeps human beings stronger against diseases…

  7. axinia Says:

    Raj, I can see your arguments…the only thing is that you are speaking NOT out of your personal experience:
    -you are not married (so you dont know how the balance in a family works)
    -you have never worn a sari (right?) so you dont know how it feels 🙂 And I would say it feels fabulous!!

    As for equality, nobody is against it here, “equal but different” that is the point!
    I personally enjoy my feminine looks and behaviour in a country where it is common for a lady to look /and behave like a man – and I honestly say I can feel the difference in the impact of my and “others” ways.

    @vishesh – could you please extend your point? thanks!

    @swaps, interesting links, thanks! I wonder if you would love to marry one of those girls 🙂

  8. swaps Says:

    Axinia, that link was to provoke you…which is difficult.

    I was trying to say that it is OK if one finds male traits in women and vice versa….doesn’t ‘ardanaarishwara’ allude to this, unity of opposites. A perfectly balanced human is a mix of both male and female traits.

    (Btw, Russian women are admirable because they are capable of filling any role….remember Tania – the sniper heroine of Battle of Stalingrad).

  9. axinia Says:

    swaps,
    “A perfectly balanced human is a mix of both male and female traits” – you are perfectly right!!! the only thing is to get the right proportion of male and female quailites. BALANCE is the ultimate word, anyway.

  10. well I am not a expert in the topic,that is why I didn’t add further proof..but anyway..

    from what I have read-the sexes are a way of evolution to make sure there is variation.The thing is humans to could have progressed asexually,but since in the world it is survival of the fittest,the sexes developed,to help changes come into the species faster…

    There is this thing called the red queen effect,google it 😛

  11. OK Says:

    I liked your recent email, as well as the expression:
    “Behind every successful man there stands a surprised woman.”

    Once someone asked me, “What is the secret behind your happy married life?”
    I said, “You should share responsibilities with due love and respect to each other. Then absolutely there will be no problems.” He asked, “Can you explain?” I said, “In my house, I take decisions on bigger issues where as my wife decides on minor or smaller issues. We do not interfere in each other’s decisions.”
    Still not convinced he asked me “Give me some examples”
    I said,” Smaller issues like which car we should buy, how much amount to save, when to visit India, which furniture, refrigerator to buy, monthly expenses, whether to keep a maid or not etc are decided by my wife. I just agree to it” He asked, “Then what is your role?”
    I said,” My decisions are only for very big issues. Like whether America should attack Iran, whether Britain should lift sanction over Zimbabwe, whether Davos agenda should be revised, whether to widen African economy, whether Robert Kruosi should retire etc. Do you know one thing, my wife NEVER objects to any of these. So we have a happy married life.”
    (author unknown)

  12. Axinia, I don’t quite understand how you can feel fabulous while wearing a six yard (sometimes nine yard) long garment over an ankle length skirt and a skin tight upper garment 😕 It would have looked fabulous and different, if you had worn it for a short while 🙂 Try wearing it 24 hours a day, everyday, for all purposes in the hot Indian weather and you’ll become sick of it 😮 It’s really a pathetic, impractical garment that should have become extinct (for everyday use) ages ago.

    The fact that Indian women (rather South Asian women) still wear the sari (some have no other choice, they are forced to wear it) for everyday use shows that this is a place where women are kept oppressed because of the stupidity of men and the primitivity of the “culture”. Especially considering the fact that men here wear practical garments and not the dhoti for everyday use.

    “Cultures” that have different dress norms for men and women are primitive, in my opinion. In “cultures” where men wear suitable, practical, comfortable and modern garments but women are forced to wear shockingly impractical garments, you can expect women to be treated as third-class citizens. It’s true of places in the Middle East/West Asia and South Asia and North Africa. It was also true in China, where the feet of girls and women were bound so badly, so that they appeared “beautiful” 😯 No wonder then, that the above mentioned regions still have serious issues with gender rights and equality. It’s because of the pathetic “culture” of these places and the primitive mindset of its men who are so insecure about themselves that they feel threatened if women become their equals. So they keep dishing out all kinds of bullshit in the name of “culture” to keep women oppressed. Shame on such “cultures” and the primitive mindset of men brought up in such a “culture” 😡

  13. axinia Says:

    @vishesh, thanks!

    @OK – thank you, I also love the story, it is sooo wise and sweet!

    @Raj, being a woman simply feels diffrent and I guess you will never been able to undertand that, sorry but this is something natural.
    You know, mostly women in the West wear trousers. I used to do that too. But since 5 years I never wear trousers, only skirts. IT FEELS SOOOO DIFFERENT!! Wearing trousers makes me faster, right, but also more “agressive” – I mean somohow untender…which I dislike! That is why I am pretty sure that I would enjoy wearing a sari every day if I could.

    It is not all about body comfort and so called freedom – it is about feeling feminine, which you, as a man, can not really grasp. 🙂


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