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There are millions of books written on “self-improvement” and we are constantly bombarded with magazine and television reports showing us how to “find the inner you”. In truth however, almost all of them are simply pandering to our ego, to make us feel better about ourselves.
These upbeat items usually tell us how much better we are than we believe, and offer a selection of trendy sound-bites which, like bad diets, are supposed to help us to attain that all important self-improvement. We are told that if we follow the handy tips we will get a better job, a happier relationship, and our life will improve beyond all belief.
The fact is that the real self-improvement can only come from hard work, generally over many years.
The problem with simply reading a book on self-improvement is that reading is the easy part. Some books suggest that we can achieve a result through the power of positive thinking – the “every day I am becoming a more dynamic and forgiving person” school of learning.
Again, like bad diets, these mind games may work for a short while, but then their power starts to fade away and we once more find ourselves battling our demons and fears. Back to square one.
Self help groups are also another popular way of tackling the task, as there is no doubt that sharing problems definitely makes it easier to deal with them. It`s the same with psychotherapy, counselling and a dozen other modern solutions to an age old problem.
But they all fail in once crucial way – they cannot deal with the source of our problems. Without addressing the source of the problem, our spiritual makeup, all other treatments are bound to fail eventually.