Since I was I child I could not understand why to get offended (needless to say I never felt offended myself). Later I found out that it is a very valuable quality as it makes my life extremely easy and free from all sorts of stupid stuff (mental over-activity and heart pains).
My close relatives where however not of that type and and it took me some hard training to show them that feeling offended really makes no sense . And it worked! – by now my mom and my sister keep saying how grateful they are for that treatment.
When somebody says “he hurt my feelings!” – I am sure it is not at all about hurting feelings! It is about hurting Ego…
THE HEART CAN NEVER BE HURT, as it is pure JOY and LOVE, pure SPIRIT…
However even if I am not of that type, now and then easily offended people cross my way. I find it extremely difficult to communicate with such people: they can feel hurt even for a compliment!
Once I told to one artist that her works are so wonderful, like from the shop window! – I meant it looked so great as if not hand made. She did not like to talk to me any more. What is there to feel bad about?
Luckily I met only few such people. However I know that far too many of otheres still find themselves offended, though less easily.
I learned a lesson and found out two ways to handle such situations:
- Tell a person you find it not OK. Tell that it blocks communication and friendships – may be he/she will be willing to get rig of this bad habit?
- If nothing works, just avoid any relationship with such people – why to support poison?
Feeling offended means only one: that a person can not forgive.
And that means nothing less as poisoning everything with negative thinking.
It means nothing less than a closed heart.
One of my favorite quotations from Shri Mataji Nirmala Devi says:
“The quality of human beings is only one and that is how much they love and