It opens the doors, it solves problems, it gives us the feeling of belonging and the enjoyment of other´s company: communication is the charismatic leader of today.
Some simple yet powerful rules derived from my own successful communication style:
1. JUST WITNESS!
The witness state brings both acuity of judgement and clarity of perception. It creates a strong defensive barrier against the flood of thoughts , suggestions, conditioning and manipulations that confuse so many of us. If you know YOU ARE IN A PLAY – obstacles, deadline and challenging remain but they lose their power to worry or upset.
2. BE SWEET!
“As soon as you decide to please others, the tongue becomes different it becomes sweet, like honey.” – says Shri Mataji and it does work wonders! Pleasing others, unfortunately, has not been seen very positive in our society (I guess it goes together with the dominating masculine style of communication). Communication is a chance to create a joyful, happy situation, why not start enjoying already before you start communicating?
3. MIND YOUR LANGUAGE!
Try to speak beautifully, it does matter. Even if a dialect may sound cute and funny sometimes, a pure and clear language helps everyone to understand you better. A well-spoken language is powerful and dignified.
4. WATCH AND LISTEN TO OTHERS!
Watching and listening to a person carefully you can learn a lot about his/her background, desires, value system and personal peculiarities. Remember the old good Sherlock Holmes? I loved his fantastic deductive skills of learning about a person only by one detail. But I know even easier method of gaining information about somebody – by using your own nervous system.
As soon as you get some impression, you can start with the best part of it: treat others the way they want to be treated (not even the way you want to be treated!).
That is basically all, enjoy your communication!