Most of us would call trust is one of the basic human values. What’s the point of writing about it when it is anyway clear to everyone. My point here is to share my observations on how people relate to trust and what could be done about it if it is missing.
We all want others to trust us. But do we trust much? In my profession I have to get an idea of a person within one hour and to reach that I had to dig deep, taking straight to the values and desires. By doing so I can sense the level of trust in a person which is -alas! – often not that high. We are afraid of each other, afraid to open up and to trust. Afraid to get hurt and disappointed. I guess each of us had at least one case in life when our trust was misused. And this makes us cautious.
No need! Relax about it, my friends. Here is what my long-term observations on the trust matte show:
1.People who trust others, are more successful in life: they are more loved, more relaxed and successful in establishing long-term relationships which lead to better career chances and of course deeper and more stable friendships and families.
2.People who trust others are happier in life in general because they have less tension and fears of being misused.
One should not be too blue-eyed of course and if there are clear signs of someone’s criminal behavior one should be alert. However are many cases when even in criminal situation when approached with trust and friendliness, the negative situation could be neutralized. I once had a miraculous situation and know how amazing it could be.
In my life I trust every one, and often people say that first impression they get from me is the sincerity which is magnetic. For me, when I meet a person, it is the first thing I feel – trust in him/her, trust in the joyful and successful communication and trust in the good about the situation. And this is what people feel and what wins them over, I think.
Interestingly, my boss who is dealing a lot with people of big money and power (often really less trustworthy people) and, despite disappointing and evil misused of his trust, still trusts every new contact, and this is what people feel and finally he gets rewarded for that.
If you do not feel happy enough it’s a good thing to ask yourself how big your trust in people is.
…And in God?